Dumb Supper or Silent Supper Part II

Dumb Supper or Silent Supper Part II

Dumb Supper or Silent Supper Part II

During Samhain we may honor or ancestors and family those long passed and recently past. That can be done by means of a dumb supper. As a rule the dumb supper is held in complete silence. Everyone is prepared before entering the dining area to have a meal in total silence. The meal can be timed to begin or end at midnight. For those whose Samhain family gathering and rituals will include adults and teenagers this is may not be difficult. There are a few rules to follow once in the dining area the main one is of course silence. The table is set with place setting for those ancestors and recently deceased love ones you wish to honor. In my supper since there are only adults I set the table just as I would for a formal dinner with place cards for the invited guest, all of the invited guest. Depending on the number of people participating there is a buffet, so each person will fill a plate for an ancestor, then for themselves. The main part of the meal is done by candle light only. Before dessert we take a moment to “speak” with those we have invited to share our meal and “listen” to their answers. Each will respond in their own way it. Some will only thank you for the invitation. After dessert we prepare to leave the dining area, thanking those who have joined us biding them farewell and turning on the lights as we leave the area.

If it is too difficult because you have young children or for other reason you can not have a meal in complete silence then perhaps this may be an alternative. Those who wish to invite their loved one who have passed to share Samhain with them may consider setting a formal table using black and either gold, silver or orange if you do not mind the traditional black and orange. Set a place for each relative that you wish to honor. Use a picture of that loved one in either a gold or silver frame for their photo. If you have no photo available write something that you remember about the person place that in the frame. Instead of having a silent tribute remember that persons’ love and wisdom and share what you learned from them and loved about them around the Samhain dinner table. There will come a time when you will be able to celebrate the Silent supper in the time-honored manner. However there is no reason the young ones in the family can not learn to honor the ancestors on this Sabbat too. Incorporate which ever rituals your children’s age group can work with and understand. Even though this is a sacred ritual it is also a ritual about family past and present coming together.