Sometimes it feels like life is an endless round of doing, getting, achieving. This happens with what might be described as our everyday, ordinary life which generally tends to be centred round working, earning money and our relationships with others but it also occurs with our spiritual life. Perhaps you feel like you’re not quite doing enough, haven’t quite got there or there’s something more that you need to do and your mind’s constantly on the go and experiencing inner peace is the exception rather than the norm.
This pursuit of something more is so closely woven into the fabric of our lives that we don’t really see it and it can also come disguised as being a good thing, aimed at improving our lives. We’re encouraged to progress up the career ladder, gaining promotion, a higher salary, going on courses, improving our skills, acquiring knowledge. We’re surrounded by advertisements for items and gadgets that will improve our lives, ways to lose weight, gain weight, retain our youthful looks. We’re offered numerous ways, online and offline, to find love – a partner we can experience happiness with or advised what we can do to improve our current relationship. We rush around to fit in our hobbies and activities we can do as a couple or as a family, trying to ensure that we extract as much pleasure and benefit as we can. Now you might be shaking your head at this moment and thinking that surely all this is “good” and beneficial. Well yes and no. None of the things we acquire or the things that we do are “bad” or “wrong” in and of themselves. It’s the continual striving for improvement and more that can strip away our inner peace and leave us feeling inadequate or less and like we’re constantly chasing our tail and that we haven’t got there.
It happens too in our spiritual practise. This can be things like feeling the need to improve our meditation practise – maybe telling ourselves we need to meditate for half an hour or an hour each day, that we were too restless during meditation and our mind wandered too much – or the urge to buy a new book or go to a new workshop because this one might just be the answer we’ve been looking for. Again, I’m not suggesting that reading books, going to workshops or developing our meditation is unhelpful or to be avoided. For me it’s about recognising when I’m doing this to chase something “better” out there that will provide the answers I want and in the process actually hindering me from what I’m really seeking; inner peace and knowing myself as I truly am.
We can get so caught up in striving and seeking that we don’t question whether the place we’ll eventually arrive at will actually be better or whether we’ll just end up going after the next thing, and continually following endless impulses which actually drive us further from ourselves and stop us from experiencing inner peace.
It’s only when we stop chasing, stop believing that we need to do more to make things better that we can slow enough to turn our gaze inwards, to soften and tune in to this very moment and who we are. Who we are is experienced in each and every moment. There are no ordinary or special moments. Those are labels that we put on. Our life and our experience and who we are, is as much in the daily walk to work as the walk with our loved ones in the forest or by the beach. Life is as much the rain as the sunshine. It’s in the ironing, doing the dishes, putting out the trash. These are not chores to be got out-of-the-way so we can turn our attention to something more productive, more fun or more meaningful. No, these also are our life. When you’re present with these tasks, without judging them or attaching any particular meaning to them, then you’re more likely to experience a delight in what is right now, without needing to rush away from it, simply being, and experiencing inner peace and stillness and a sense of connection to yourself and to all around you in your world. And so then, all the things that previously were approached in order to do, get or achieve can be entered into without the striving or struggle and enjoyed simply as the different experiences they are. When we cease to have to improve things, get somewhere, do more, we’re more able to be in the now, attuned to ourselves and all around us, allowing resolution of any perceived issues to arise easily and we can experience true inner peace.
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